I wish
I wish. Two words that pop into my head a lot. Surely, it is inevitable after a loved one dies. I just finished reading the book The Women, by Kristin Hannah. It’s historical fiction about the role women played during the Vietnam war, in country. A good book, though not the point of this blog.…
You were out of my league
Because you are reading this, you already know that I believe in signs -that I am open to them, I am observant of them, and I receive them. I also feel pretty certain that if there was anybody who could pull off sending signs, it’s Tim. There are two main reasons why I know he…
One more ride
My mom, Sharon, passed away on November 24, 2023. This is the same date, November 24, on which her own mother died 57 years earlier. We only learned of this synchronicity a few days after Mom’s death. It amazed me. It, somehow, comforted me. And it made me reflect, even more, on what had been…
Let’s forgive them
Tim had been in the hospital for four nights. On the morning of the fifth day, we put in motion the decision we had already made together, to transfer him into hospice care within the hospital. When I reflect back on this decision, it’s impossible to recall the conversation around it. There certainly was no…
Who will call?
A few months ago a man left three voice messages for my sister, Jackie, in less than 24 hours. He said he grew up in the area and was calling to inquire about my Mom. He left his name and Florida number. She was suspicious, but when she shared his name with me, I knew…
My one and only
November 24, 2023 – Today, I am reminded of this, when someone you love, who you are immensely invested in, has just died, But there is one thing that I learned only now, in this moment. No matter how old I am and how expected her death may have been, it really hurts, because my…
Can you?
Acceptance. As it relates to death, once upon a time, I thought it meant accepting that the person is no longer physically with us. Accepting that it can’t be changed. Intellectually, to me, I figured that was pretty straightforward. I’ve come to learn that acceptance is more complicated than that. We also have to accept…